Wednesday, April 18, 2012
Hey hey hey, I’m not saying men don’t cheat, I’m just pointing some of the reasons why women cheat.
First of all when I talk about women, there is a difference between girlfriends and wives. The reasons why your girlfriend cheats and why your wife cheats may be similar or different. There is also the personality factor, which simply means, what kind of person is your girlfriend or your wife. Is she the ‘good person’ type who actually believes that cheating is wrong, or is she the kind of person who would say, ‘Oh, I didn’t know I wasn’t supposed to have sex with your boss’.  The reasons why women cheat might be caused by
the actions of their men, or just by her own fault. So let’s look at some of the reasons. I’ll start from the ones that are less her fault and go down to the ones that will show you how bad a person she is.

1.    Alcohol
She got drunk (I mean extremely drunk) and who knows, she thought the guy she cheated with was you, or she might even tell you that he reminded her of you. She probably still loves you and I’m sure she will regret it.
What can you do - I don’t think there is anything you can do except tell her to know her limits while drinking or even not letting her go to the party or whatever.
 
2.    Alcohol, Loneliness, Distance, Intimacy, Sex

Maybe it was a distance relationship, or you guys were together for a while and you went away for work or something, then she feels lonely and when she gets drunk, she might find comfort with somebody else. It might even be that she wanted to have sex at the time (feeling horny), and she just couldn’t fight off the feeling when she was drunk. Her love for you is still there but for the time being she got something that you couldn’t provide. So i'm sure she’ll regret it.
What can you do – try to visit more often and tell her not to go out drinking when she's feeling lonely.

3.    Distance, Loneliness, Intimacy, Sex
This is actually the same as the one before but it doesn’t involve getting drunk. It doesn’t necessarily happen while she’s drunk, but it might be when a colleague or friend of hers visits her or when they eat together. So when these things happen, she will find the intimacy she wanted from you with this person, and she might end up going to bed with this guy. Or it could be that she wanted to have sex with you but this guy made a move, and she couldn’t fight it off. She might be confused on what action to take, which is how most women end up having another man in their lives for a long time, or she might decide to stop your relationship even though she still loves you.
What can you do – Sacrifice as much time and energy as possible and go see her more often. I'm sure we’ve all got important things to do but one thing I'm sure of is that, Love requires sacrifice. So sacrifice your time and energy and go to where she is, take her out to dinner and just have a nice time.

4.    She gave up on the relationship
What this means is that maybe she can’t see beyond a certain problem that you guys have. Maybe you guys have a distance relationship and she might not be willing to move to where you are and you might not as well. Or maybe she wants to get married now and have kids within a year, and you want that after 5 years.  It could also be sexual where you’re no longer able to satisfy her sexually.
What can you do – like I said before sacrifice, you both have to come at least half way, if she’s not willing to do that, I guess you have to go all way to make the relationship work. If its sexual, understand that like all men, women want sex too. And if she’s willing to try out other means like oral sex, do those things. If not, i guess there is nothing you can do except let he go.

5.    Alcohol, something you said or did
She wanted something from you and maybe you forgot, maybe you called her a name or maybe you did something that made her very angry. When she gets drunk, she might think kissing or having sex with another guy will make you angry. So she might end up doing it.
What can you do – For me, this is pure stupidity. So if she that kind of person, believe me when she marries you, she’s not saying, ‘I take this man to be my lawfully wedded husband for better or for worse, in sickness or in health…’.
She is saying ‘I take this guy to be my husband for better and better only’.

6.    Payback time. (You cheated on her)
Same as before, but except you cheated instead of forgetting her birthday or anniversary.
What can you do – People have to be forgiving, so I truly believe she should forgive you but she may not be that much forgiving, or she may just want to hurt you as much as you hurt her. I guess you shouldn’t cheat on her.

7.    She got bored
The same sex in the same position, in the same room, with the same person.  Maybe she wants to try out new things, find out what it feels like to have sex with either a younger or older man.
What can you do – Do new things, keep it fresh and exciting. Sometimes take her out to dinner, and don’t go home. Just stay in a hotel, tell her to wear something sexy or even try role playing.

8.    She thinks cheating isn’t wrong

Yep! There are those kind of people who actually believe cheating is ok! Actually they don't see it as cheating, they don't know what cheating means.This might be true for men but still there are few women out there who believe cheating is ok.
What can you do – Take her to a priest and exorcise that demon out of her. Just kidding, but i'm sure you kind of understand someone's way of thinking after some time together. So i'm sure you would know if she’s this kind of person before the relationship goes too far.

9.    She’s just not a good person
She knows that cheating is wrong but she just does it anyways. I mean you might be good in bed, you might be caring, but she might still end up cheating on you.
What can you do – You married her,  so deal with it!!!

10.    You’re the other guy she cheated with

Aint this a bitch! You thought you were her main man, but she got a husband or a boyfriend ‘who she loves’, but because he couldn’t be there and satisfy her needs, she was having fun with you.
What can you do – Get the hell out of there before he finds out.

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